The dilemma

It's been a few days since my last post and besides the usual perks of thoughtfulness, it was my time to reflect on what I really want to do in life. My mother says, " Ayeshu, big deal.. Just go with the flow and anyway everybody is destined to get married". I am left scornful at the thought.

Why is it that our so called culture relies so heavily on the institution of marriage? I understand that my mother loves to dress and she would be too darn excited to see me in a Ghagra choli and that big nose ring. So conventional.

If I do want a wedding, it shouldn't be conventional, after all I have disliked most of the traditions and remain skeptic about the stupid rituals and the stupid happiness that people derive from them. There is a ceremony that we Muslims perform during weddings in which the groom's to be sister- in- law is to provide him a jar of milk and he in return gives  her money for it. The grooms end up giving thousands of rupees just for a jar of milk, I get it that it isn't about the milk anymore and it's about the integrity of the groom but, really? how can anybody be so dumb? And the Sister- in- law acts like a doll throughout, I NEVER want to be in that situation.

But, I am sure many of you like wedding food and the same goes for me. I may feel guilty for mentioning this later but, what the hell. I love wedding food and that's the reason I go to most weddings!

P.S: Let me tell you that there is a big difference between a wedding and marriage. A wedding is fun and stupid but, a marriage is serious and solemn. A wedding lasts a day or two whereas a marriage lasts an entire lifetime. ( at least for me)

So, please decide wisely and marry only when you know it's the right time and the right man/ woman.