We come across different people everyday of our lives. Everybody has their own unique personalities and quirks but, what makes us all alike is that we are human.
I have had personal experience with denial, but, I have known a person who has ticked off all the three stages but is now, thankfully out of my sight. May peace be with all!
But, somewhere along the line, we hit boulders and instead of learning that boulders come and go in life- We blame the boulders.
"I was walking fine and briskly until the boulder came my way. Stupid, wrong boulder."
" I have done nothing wrong in life, I am an angel. The boulder's the Satan".
And there comes the third most irritating response:
"Mom, dad, cousins, countrymen. The boulder sucks and it makes me feel so vulnerable and shattered."
The first response is the most common response many of us have given at some point in our lives. Not taking responsibility and living in denial reflects an immaturity which grows out of time and experience. But, well, if it doesn't...
It harps into the second response, which is an even bigger form of denial. It's called 'shifting blame'.
After denial comes the perception that I am perfect and everybody else is evil. But, this doesn't mean that the person never realises her/his mistakes. They merely shrug it off saying, 'it was a stupid mistake, BIG DEAL'. About 80 percent of people who resort to shifting blame surely do proceed to the next step. It is inevitable but avoidable if you realize and change paths.
It is easy to deny, even easier to shift blame, but to feed on other people's sympathy is sad not only for the others, but for the person himself. This is the highlight of the third response. The people who are smart enough to channel into the feelings of others for their own advantage. Not only do they deny their mistakes, they shift blames and are greedy for other's acceptance. Many theorists may argue that this happens because of a weak ego system or so. But, I completely refute this argument. Why in the world with anybody with a weak 'ego' even have the balls to risk the only relationships they have for mere gratification. It doesn't just take balls to do this, but also a lot of ego and self confidence that they will succeed in their pursuit of leeching off other's sympathy.
I have had personal experience with denial, but, I have known a person who has ticked off all the three stages but is now, thankfully out of my sight. May peace be with all!
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